The divorce of my in-laws became final sometime in October 2008 I believe. My father in law has moved to another state and is working at a job that he doesn't much like. He's looking for another job, and he seems to be feeling the pain and trying to turn to God for help from the little we hear. It's still hard to find the right level of involvement with his personal life because he still spends a lot of time dealing with and thinking about his ex-wife.
We've heard rumors that my wife's mother was getting married, and we heard from her father today that it has happened. Again, we're trying to find the right balance of maintaining a relationship and not getting too involved. In the past few months, things became so difficult with her that we had to call a break to all contact with her while we recovered and worked to know what kind of a relationship might be possible in the future.
At this point, my wife wants nothing to do with her mother, as, in addition to the existing problems they had, she feels that her mother was AT LEAST having an "emotional affair" with the man she has married for over a year now, if not a physical one, and this sort of "falling in love with another man" has happened more than once in the past. She is willing to consider that, maybe, some day, she will want to have some contact with her mother, but she has no idea if she will ever feel that way.
We have been reading a book called "How to Hug a Porcupine", and we've tried to be sensitive to the things that we do that make us porcupine-like. Even so, the descriptions given in the first part of what a porcupine-like person does has sounded very familiar to how we have been treated by my mother-in-law. Hopefully we can learn to not be that way ourselves, and maybe even be able to deal with people who are that way.
This is the most closely I have ever been involved with a divorce, even though I've had siblings go through divorce in the past. I appreciate the support from those who know what we're feeling, and as bad as this is, I know it could always be worse. I'm glad it's not. We'll start working on building the relationship with her father again for now, and we'll depend on the Lord to help us going forward.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
Tag
My sister tagged me in a simple game, and since the picture that came up was so cute, I decided to play along.
Rules:
Go to your picture files. Open the 6th folder, and the 6th picture. Post it on your blog and tell the story of the picture. Then tag 6 people.
Here is my photo:
This is my youngest child. He is at a friend's house. This particular friend is a photographer, and my wife was having some family pictures taken. She wanted to get our son in the Eeyore costume before he completely grew out of it. Oddly, we have a photo of our second oldest in the same costume, and it's kind of hard to tell the two apart, as our youngest has a strong resemblance to our second oldest. I'll see if I can find that picture too.
OK, so it's my two oldest, about 4.5 years earlier, but you get the idea.
I'm not going to tag anyone, but if you do decide to do something similar due to what you saw here, please feel free to drop a comment with a link to your offering. I'd be interested to see what turns up!
Rules:
Go to your picture files. Open the 6th folder, and the 6th picture. Post it on your blog and tell the story of the picture. Then tag 6 people.
Here is my photo:
This is my youngest child. He is at a friend's house. This particular friend is a photographer, and my wife was having some family pictures taken. She wanted to get our son in the Eeyore costume before he completely grew out of it. Oddly, we have a photo of our second oldest in the same costume, and it's kind of hard to tell the two apart, as our youngest has a strong resemblance to our second oldest. I'll see if I can find that picture too.
OK, so it's my two oldest, about 4.5 years earlier, but you get the idea.
I'm not going to tag anyone, but if you do decide to do something similar due to what you saw here, please feel free to drop a comment with a link to your offering. I'd be interested to see what turns up!
4 March 2009 Workout
Time: 6:30 AM
Weight beforehand: 348 lbs
Length: 15 minutes
Program: TPRU Twist
Elliptical Reported Calories Burned: 308
Rating: I'm glad I worked out again. I sure felt the burn in my lungs today due to the long time between workouts.
Weight beforehand: 348 lbs
Length: 15 minutes
Program: TPRU Twist
Elliptical Reported Calories Burned: 308
Rating: I'm glad I worked out again. I sure felt the burn in my lungs today due to the long time between workouts.
I Got Better...
It's been a while since I posted an update, and that's in large part because I haven't worked out in a while. The reason for that is because my family and I have been experiencing various illnesses recently. In fact, over one recent 8 day period, my wife made 4 trips to a doctor's office for various family members.
Someone told me recently that mid-February to mid-March in Utah is the time of year when doctors see the most patients for various colds and illnesses. I guess it's like the holiday season for retailers - busy, busy, busy, and possibly a large part of their yearly income? Anyway...
Some of us are better now. Some of us aren't. I did work out today though, so that's why you get to find out what's been going on. Hopefully I'll work out some more soon.
Someone told me recently that mid-February to mid-March in Utah is the time of year when doctors see the most patients for various colds and illnesses. I guess it's like the holiday season for retailers - busy, busy, busy, and possibly a large part of their yearly income? Anyway...
Some of us are better now. Some of us aren't. I did work out today though, so that's why you get to find out what's been going on. Hopefully I'll work out some more soon.
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